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As you can deduce from the title, I have just come back from philosophy class and I'm feeling perturbed, probably because of the relative sheltered life I've lived before this year. So here we go.
Human nature is insatiable. We all know this is a basic fact of life...humans are never really satisfied with what they have, whether it's possessions or friends, what have you. What disturbs me is the fact that there are certain ASPECTS of human nature that are insatiable, specific to the sexes. Keep in mind these are generalizations and that everyone is different. But they are scarily accurate when it comes to women, so I'm guessing they're largely correct for males too.
Females have an insatiable drive to bond, emotionally. However, as soon as they feel the bonding is over, they tend to forget that the bonding took place, making it a constant yearning. For example, some newlyweds are on their honeymoon. They spend seven days just spending time with each other and the husband devotes all his attention to her. When the honeymoon is over, the couple is in the airport and the wife goes to the bathroom. On her way back, she sees her husband's eyes peeled on another (very attractive) woman. In that instant, it is almost like the wife doesn't even consider the great week they just had together; she only perceives that she needs to bond with him MORE because, in her mind, the connection is frayed, is lost. But I already knew this about women, or myself, at the very least. What bothers me is what I learned about men.
Men have an insatiable desire for sex. Even visual stimulus—just looking at a woman—arouses them. Their sexuality is polymorphous, which basically means that it's wild. It's the same intensity as a woman's desire for connection, but it is also just as forgettable. As soon as a guy....does his thing, his body (not his soul or mind) FORGETS that he had sex. It's like it never even happened, so the body is always thirsting for more. He wants every woman he sees, physically. Of course, a lot of guys want to be faithful to one woman, have a family, etc. But they appear to be programed for the very opposite!!
MY questions are:
So, considering that men and women have COMPLETELY different needs, how do marriages work? Or do the differences allow them to work as a unit?
Are the differences culturally learned, or are they innate? Obviously, our own morals and values curb these longings, and that can take a person far. But how effective is that?
Human nature is insatiable. We all know this is a basic fact of life...humans are never really satisfied with what they have, whether it's possessions or friends, what have you. What disturbs me is the fact that there are certain ASPECTS of human nature that are insatiable, specific to the sexes. Keep in mind these are generalizations and that everyone is different. But they are scarily accurate when it comes to women, so I'm guessing they're largely correct for males too.
Females have an insatiable drive to bond, emotionally. However, as soon as they feel the bonding is over, they tend to forget that the bonding took place, making it a constant yearning. For example, some newlyweds are on their honeymoon. They spend seven days just spending time with each other and the husband devotes all his attention to her. When the honeymoon is over, the couple is in the airport and the wife goes to the bathroom. On her way back, she sees her husband's eyes peeled on another (very attractive) woman. In that instant, it is almost like the wife doesn't even consider the great week they just had together; she only perceives that she needs to bond with him MORE because, in her mind, the connection is frayed, is lost. But I already knew this about women, or myself, at the very least. What bothers me is what I learned about men.
Men have an insatiable desire for sex. Even visual stimulus—just looking at a woman—arouses them. Their sexuality is polymorphous, which basically means that it's wild. It's the same intensity as a woman's desire for connection, but it is also just as forgettable. As soon as a guy....does his thing, his body (not his soul or mind) FORGETS that he had sex. It's like it never even happened, so the body is always thirsting for more. He wants every woman he sees, physically. Of course, a lot of guys want to be faithful to one woman, have a family, etc. But they appear to be programed for the very opposite!!
MY questions are:
So, considering that men and women have COMPLETELY different needs, how do marriages work? Or do the differences allow them to work as a unit?
Are the differences culturally learned, or are they innate? Obviously, our own morals and values curb these longings, and that can take a person far. But how effective is that?
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